Treasures from the heart

Today has been one year since my moms death.

Our lives have been forever changed due to selfishness and greed but I am firm believer in our justice system.

About 25 years ago my mom started sharing her mementos from the past. Sometimes it was little things with the family history that went with them other times it was bigger things.

At Christmas time my mom would fix my sister and I a special package from the past with a note about the item.

One year it was special quilts from our great grandmothers collection. My mom never put names on the packages we had to pick a package with no tag that way she was not picking who got what. That year I ended up with the wedding ring quilt that I had always thought was so beautiful with its tiny hand quilted pieces.

Later on there were a few more quilts one my great grandmother Tumlin made for me when I was a child and my sister was given the one she made her as a child.

There was another year it was glassware and I ended up with the square hobnail milk glass pedestal candy dish. Then there was the first set of silverware of my grandparents, embroidered napkins my great aunt Bonnie made for my grandmother. The Battenburg lace table runner still starched and ironed I am sure by Mama Dot.

My mom thought since I loved the color blue I should have my grandmothers (Mama Dot’s) Pfalttzgraff Yorktowne Stoneware Dishes they were the Blue Cornflower.

Normally that seems okay but there is a box that is 4 foot high x 3ft wide full of serving dishes, soup terrains, pie plates, gravy boats etc. that I have never even used. I will never use them so there they sit in a box. The only thing I can think of to do is make some of them planters I hate letting them sit there another 20 years.

There was handmade lace & tatting from my great great grandmother and her siblings. The work that went into this type stuff back then is truly amazing.

I was given one of the large wooden boxes from Shanghai Japan my grandfather bought while on leave while in the service. This was from 1946/47 he was aboard the USS Los Angeles in the china sea. I am assuming this was when he was in the Navy but he was also in the Marines.

Another year it was very very old pictures of my great grandmother, great grandfather and grandfather when he was younger. Then there was my grandmother when she was a infant sitting on her moms lap. Each picture was in an envelope with a description of who was in the picture and the approximate time and place it was taken. I have a picture of my mom when she was three years old. My mom took the pictures she had and made us copies of them at Walgreens.

I remember asking my mom at the time” why are you giving us these things now”. Her reply was “I want to make sure you both have some special things from the past. If I give it to you now I know you got it and the history that goes with it. Then someday you can pass it on to another generation”. This made me cry and then before you know it we were both crying.

After my mom died last year it dawned on me that she knew if she did not give those things to us when she did we would never get them. It was her way of making sure we got what she wanted us to have and she was able to see us enjoy getting these things.

The treasures of the past are part of many past generations and part of my moms life and memories and now they are mine to share.

Thank you mom I will always cherish my things from the past and I am grateful you gave them to us ahead of time because that makes them treasures from the heart.

MEMORIES ARE GREAT BECAUSE NOONE CAN STEAL THEM!

Life is good!

Family Drama & Greed

I grew up with family drama all around as the years went on it seem to get worse.

On my mom’s side of the family, she had two brothers but she was the oldest. They all quit talking to each other many years ago after my grandparents had died.

My mom even held up the sale of my grandparent’s house to irritate one of them knowing they just wanted the money to gamble with. She talked to me about this several times. My parents spent years and years working and saving money so money was not an issue for them and neither one would have gambled away large sums of money.

The last time the 3 siblings saw each other in person before my mom’s death was 20 years before at my great aunt’s funeral. This was only because they all had to be there at the same time. My mom told me the tension was pretty bad at the time and things would never be the same again this was in 1999.

They all 3 lived 300 miles apart close enough they should have visited each other at least a few times a year. The 3 of them never even really knew each other as middle-aged adults much less during retirement.

Our children have not seen either great uncle in 26 years. They do not know me or my family and therefore have no say so in anything that happens.

They never talked on the phone or kept in touch until my dad was diagnosed with cancer in August 2014 then she and Brother B spoke a few times a week. She never spoke to the youngest Brother D until my dad passed away and they were never as close as she was with brother B.

Neither of my moms brothers (my uncles) came to either one of my parents funerals now that says A LOT! This is called FAMILY Love.

Most of the time family issues boil down to two words JEALOUSY or GREED and sometimes both.

Sometimes people get so jealous of the relationships of others they have to try and destroy those relationships.

Every family has its issues and I honestly thought my mom’s and her brother’s drama was bad enough but that was until my mom died.

My parents only had two children my sister and myself.

I can tell you this much this drama was neither one of us because we would have never done such a thing.

I have family members involved in this greed.

My dad warned my mom about this he said: ” Watch Your Back”.

I knew who he meant and those I am closest to know who would take advantage of my mom.

I am ashamed of some members of my own family and I have to wonder how you can justify your actions.

How do you sleep at night knowing what you have done?

The others involved with you are just as guilty as you are as of right now I know of 4 of you.

Bribery is a whole different issue but bribing with money that is not yours REALLY! 

Accepting a bribe is another issue for my other family member that is involved in this greed.

I hope you get the feeling you are being watched by big brother because you are.

Your time will come and all your lies will not help you this time.

The death of my mom

My mom passed away on Tuesday, November 19, 2019, and we buried her on Friday, November 22, 2019.

She will be missed by all who loved her and respected her.

Our family spent the evening at the homestead in Pearland, Texas that my sister and I grew up in. Our oldest son Joshua and his wife Cori ordered Olive Garden which was my mom’s favorite place to eat and we just sat around and talked. It was really nice to be around family & friends who felt the same way about her as I did.

When an elderly person loses a spouse their life is forever changed. My mom’s life pretty much started declining when my dad passed away five years ago in September.

This made her very vulnerable to some family members she trusted with her life.

My mom was emotionally, psychologically and financially abused and I will spend my lifetime getting justice for my mom who never deserved that treatment from anyone.

In the state of Texas, all wills have to be probated this takes about 45 days and NOONE is allowed to take anything jewelry, money or personal belongings until that happens. I had taken pictures of all my mom’s jewelry during Hurricane Harvey so it will all be accounted for down to every single ring and necklace.

Mom, I hope you find peace and happiness with my dad and grandparents.

I love you today, tomorrow, always and forever and until the end of time.

 

Sonya

 

 

Dear Mom

 Dear Mom,
   You were always my best friend we were so close during my life.
   Olga told me she had never seen a mother and daughter as close as we were that made me feel really good.
   We loved crafting, decorating, & our many shopping trips to Hobby Lobby and Big Lots were lots of laughs. Going to Hobby Lobby without you is not any fun so I order a lot of my craft supplies.
   We were always planning our next big project. Dad always wanted us to bring him back something good. He hated it when we were using glitter because he always got it on his face & someone would comment on it.
   My goal in life was to always be there for you and my dad and I feel like I accomplished that in my 41 years of marriage to Jack. You both told me numerous times you were so grateful you could always count on me.
   I went with you when your mom my grandmother Mama Dot was dying we cried all 300 miles to Louisiana our faces were so swollen by the time we got to the hospital. I think that was our fastest trip we ever made and we did not even stop to pee.
I had taken Daddy Dub home one night and we were about to walk out the door at the house the next morning when the phone rang it was yall telling us Mama Dot had passed away in the night. He said, ” Well Sugar I guess there is no need to go to the hospital right now.” I was the only one with him for 1 hour before you all got there and that was the longest hour of my life.
   I went with you to take Daddy Dub back home from Texas to Louisiana when we knew we were taking him home to die. We knew it was the last time we would see him and we cried all the way there & all the way home.
   I was there for you and dad through many surgeries through the years from prostate and breast cancer to knee replacement and Emergency gall bladder surgery these two were one week apart.
That was a hectic time with follow up appts and Physical Therapy 3 x a week for 8 weeks.
   I was still recovering from rotator cuff surgery when Dad was diagnosed with esophageal cancer.
   I was at every dr and hospital appointment dad had. The only time I left the room during an appointment was when you had to meet with the financial people at Texas Oncology. I felt like that part was not my business.
   I took Dad to his cancer treatments the radiation and chemo and I really enjoyed my time with him that was very special for both of us.
   I was the first one with you at the house within 10 minutes of you finding dad and that by far was one tough thing to go through.
My dad was not supposed to die yet I felt so cheated! I called his primary care dr to get his opinion of what might have happened and he agreed that it was probably an Esophageal Varices caused by the chemo. It really made sense with the bleeding he had been experiencing.
   I stayed with you for 6 weeks waiting for the security system to get installed. I was so worried about you being alone I think I was more scared for you than you were for yourself. I went into protection mode.
I took you to 16 appts during the first few months after dad’s death. From every bank, financial advisor, attorney appts, Drs appts, etc. I had all your appointments written on my calendar which I still have. I still have my planner that listed all dad’s appointments.
   I felt like no family member or friend should ever know anyone else’s business and told you not to tell me anything about the financials. This was not my business, in fact, it was not ANYONE Business.
    I wanted to remind you of these good things since I will not see you before you die. I am glad you got to hear my words because I wanted you to know how much I loved you and what a great mom you were. Give my dad a hug from me.
   I never thought I would go through breast cancer without you by my side and I never thought you would be dying without me by your side.
  I love you today, tomorrow, always and forever and until the end of time.
Sonya

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