Treasures from the heart

Today has been one year since my moms death.

Our lives have been forever changed due to selfishness and greed but I am firm believer in our justice system.

About 25 years ago my mom started sharing her mementos from the past. Sometimes it was little things with the family history that went with them other times it was bigger things.

At Christmas time my mom would fix my sister and I a special package from the past with a note about the item.

One year it was special quilts from our great grandmothers collection. My mom never put names on the packages we had to pick a package with no tag that way she was not picking who got what. That year I ended up with the wedding ring quilt that I had always thought was so beautiful with its tiny hand quilted pieces.

Later on there were a few more quilts one my great grandmother Tumlin made for me when I was a child and my sister was given the one she made her as a child.

There was another year it was glassware and I ended up with the square hobnail milk glass pedestal candy dish. Then there was the first set of silverware of my grandparents, embroidered napkins my great aunt Bonnie made for my grandmother. The Battenburg lace table runner still starched and ironed I am sure by Mama Dot.

My mom thought since I loved the color blue I should have my grandmothers (Mama Dot’s) Pfalttzgraff Yorktowne Stoneware Dishes they were the Blue Cornflower.

Normally that seems okay but there is a box that is 4 foot high x 3ft wide full of serving dishes, soup terrains, pie plates, gravy boats etc. that I have never even used. I will never use them so there they sit in a box. The only thing I can think of to do is make some of them planters I hate letting them sit there another 20 years.

There was handmade lace & tatting from my great great grandmother and her siblings. The work that went into this type stuff back then is truly amazing.

I was given one of the large wooden boxes from Shanghai Japan my grandfather bought while on leave while in the service. This was from 1946/47 he was aboard the USS Los Angeles in the china sea. I am assuming this was when he was in the Navy but he was also in the Marines.

Another year it was very very old pictures of my great grandmother, great grandfather and grandfather when he was younger. Then there was my grandmother when she was a infant sitting on her moms lap. Each picture was in an envelope with a description of who was in the picture and the approximate time and place it was taken. I have a picture of my mom when she was three years old. My mom took the pictures she had and made us copies of them at Walgreens.

I remember asking my mom at the time” why are you giving us these things now”. Her reply was “I want to make sure you both have some special things from the past. If I give it to you now I know you got it and the history that goes with it. Then someday you can pass it on to another generation”. This made me cry and then before you know it we were both crying.

After my mom died last year it dawned on me that she knew if she did not give those things to us when she did we would never get them. It was her way of making sure we got what she wanted us to have and she was able to see us enjoy getting these things.

The treasures of the past are part of many past generations and part of my moms life and memories and now they are mine to share.

Thank you mom I will always cherish my things from the past and I am grateful you gave them to us ahead of time because that makes them treasures from the heart.

MEMORIES ARE GREAT BECAUSE NOONE CAN STEAL THEM!

Life is good!

My Dads Birthday

Today would have been my dad’s 81st. birthday.

My dad either liked you or he didn’t there was no in-between.

Dad wanted a better life for us than he had as a kid. Our parents saw to it we had everything we wanted or needed and we were very grateful. As an adult, I learned to appreciate this much more.

Dad, I  miss you more each day, month, and year that you are gone but I will never forget you.

Happy Birthday, Dad, I love you and give mom a hug for me.

This is my 500th. post on this blog talk about good timing.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Six Years

Dad it has been six years since you passed away. Not a day goes by that I do not think about you.

When I feed the birds or see the deer I remember how much you enjoyed wildlife. You loved your raccoons and they were very friendly.

A crisp 60 degree fall day was your favorite time of year. Pecan pie was your favorite pie. You loved chicken and dumplings, potato soup and beef stew.

Most days I get gentle reminders of you that make me laugh or cry.

Memories are there to soothe our souls and give us peace of mind.

I love you always and forever and thank you for the love & influence you had on my life it made me the strong person I am today.

Dear Mom

 Dear Mom,
   You were always my best friend we were so close during my life.
   Olga told me she had never seen a mother and daughter as close as we were that made me feel really good.
   We loved crafting, decorating, & our many shopping trips to Hobby Lobby and Big Lots were lots of laughs. Going to Hobby Lobby without you is not any fun so I order a lot of my craft supplies.
   We were always planning our next big project. Dad always wanted us to bring him back something good. He hated it when we were using glitter because he always got it on his face & someone would comment on it.
   My goal in life was to always be there for you and my dad and I feel like I accomplished that in my 41 years of marriage to Jack. You both told me numerous times you were so grateful you could always count on me.
   I went with you when your mom my grandmother Mama Dot was dying we cried all 300 miles to Louisiana our faces were so swollen by the time we got to the hospital. I think that was our fastest trip we ever made and we did not even stop to pee.
I had taken Daddy Dub home one night and we were about to walk out the door at the house the next morning when the phone rang it was yall telling us Mama Dot had passed away in the night. He said, ” Well Sugar I guess there is no need to go to the hospital right now.” I was the only one with him for 1 hour before you all got there and that was the longest hour of my life.
   I went with you to take Daddy Dub back home from Texas to Louisiana when we knew we were taking him home to die. We knew it was the last time we would see him and we cried all the way there & all the way home.
   I was there for you and dad through many surgeries through the years from prostate and breast cancer to knee replacement and Emergency gall bladder surgery these two were one week apart.
That was a hectic time with follow up appts and Physical Therapy 3 x a week for 8 weeks.
   I was still recovering from rotator cuff surgery when Dad was diagnosed with esophageal cancer.
   I was at every dr and hospital appointment dad had. The only time I left the room during an appointment was when you had to meet with the financial people at Texas Oncology. I felt like that part was not my business.
   I took Dad to his cancer treatments the radiation and chemo and I really enjoyed my time with him that was very special for both of us.
   I was the first one with you at the house within 10 minutes of you finding dad and that by far was one tough thing to go through.
My dad was not supposed to die yet I felt so cheated! I called his primary care dr to get his opinion of what might have happened and he agreed that it was probably an Esophageal Varices caused by the chemo. It really made sense with the bleeding he had been experiencing.
   I stayed with you for 6 weeks waiting for the security system to get installed. I was so worried about you being alone I think I was more scared for you than you were for yourself. I went into protection mode.
I took you to 16 appts during the first few months after dad’s death. From every bank, financial advisor, attorney appts, Drs appts, etc. I had all your appointments written on my calendar which I still have. I still have my planner that listed all dad’s appointments.
   I felt like no family member or friend should ever know anyone else’s business and told you not to tell me anything about the financials. This was not my business, in fact, it was not ANYONE Business.
    I wanted to remind you of these good things since I will not see you before you die. I am glad you got to hear my words because I wanted you to know how much I loved you and what a great mom you were. Give my dad a hug from me.
   I never thought I would go through breast cancer without you by my side and I never thought you would be dying without me by your side.
  I love you today, tomorrow, always and forever and until the end of time.
Sonya

Five Years Ago

Today it has been 5 years since my dad passed away.

I took new flowers to the cemetery on Friday.

My dad and I were able to spend some time together while I was taking him back and forth to chemo and radiation. It was just the two of us and that was actually nice. We were able to talk about some things that were on his mind & he knew I would listen.

 I wish you were here so I could say “well dad you were right”!                                                          

You were such a smart man & you could always tell if someone’s intentions were sincere.

I am so glad I could be there for you when you needed me the most with kind words and a carrying heart.

Thank you for telling me you were grateful you could always count on me that meant a lot to me.

I love you and miss you every day. Thank you for being my dad and being a part of my life.

 

My Dad

Happy Fathers Day

Happy Fathers Day to all you Dads out there I hope you all have a wonderful day.

My Dad passed away 5 years ago this September and I miss him so much.

We loved talking about all the wildlife in our yards. He would feed the raccoons and the birds and just laugh telling me the funny stuff the animals did.

He would think it is funny I have 9 bird feeders, 2 hummingbird feeders and 6 birdbaths. When I feed the birds I can not help but think about my dad.

I think he would get a kick out of knowing I am making birdbaths and he would probably put in his own order for a few.

I have three I have made in the last month the fourth is curing. I love painting them all different. I will be posting some pictures soon.

He would love the fact that I have the black-bellied whistling ducks coming by several times a day to grab a bite.

Happy Fathers day to my dad in heaven I will never forget the impact you had on my life. Love you always & forever.

 

 

 

Happy Birthday Dad

Today would have been my Dads 78th. birthday.

My dad was my hero and that will never change.

Memories are something we will always have but my grief is still there. It has been four years since cancer took my dads life.

Happy Birthday Dad I love you!

 

Four years ago today

Four years ago today my dad passed away.

There is not a day goes by that I do not think about him and miss him.

I am grateful that I had him in my life as long as I did. At the same time, I am also glad he does know what I have been through over the last year.

Thank you, Dad, for all the life lessons you taught me because that made me the strong person I am today.

I love you Dad and you are forever in my memories and in my heart!

 

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