When I was a young girl I remember this cedar chest in the middle bedroom at my grandparents house.
We were never told not to look it in but we didn’t dare because we were not medley children.
Years went by and it sat in the same place I remember after I was married asking my grandmother what was in it. She said some old pictures and stuff. I said we should take the pics out and label them but she was not feeling well at the time and we decided we would do it at another time. Of course, the next time never came because she died within a few months of us talking about doing this.
After my grandmother died in December 1989 my mother was given the cedar chest by her dad he said she was the only girl and it should be passed down to her and then she could pass it down to me one day. As the oldest daughter I never really thought much about it but I love the ideas of things being passed down to the next generation.
It sat for years in my mom and dad’s house at the end of the bed. When my mother passed away in November 2019 I forgot about the cedar chest. I remembered it months later and realized it had probably already been taken from the premises like so many other things were.
The family items recently went onto a family-only auction this is NOT a good idea some people bid stuff up out of spite to keep others from getting it and they do not know the back story to the stuff. Some people use rude names as a bidding name and act like 2 years old. Family auctions are just not a good answer to family matters and an estate. Find another solution if you can and please do not have a family auction.
The cedar chest was listed but once I saw the price going up fast I knew I was not going to bid on it I was sad because I knew someday it was supposed to be mine.
During the last hours of the auction, I was following the ambulance to the ER with my mother n law.
Later that night while I was in the ER with her I received a text from our oldest son Joshua and our youngest daughter Jeanelle they had been mutually bidding on the chest and they won it for a whopping $850.00. They knew each other was bidding but were both placing bids so they could ensure they won it.
They bid on this cedar chest for me I never asked them to do that and I would have never paid that much for it but since they had been told the story of the cedar chest they felt like I should have it. This is truly a gift from the heart and it brings tears to my eyes.
I am so grateful that Joshua and Jeanelle thought of doing this for me it is one of the most thoughtful amazing gifts I have ever received. I am so blessed to have them both in my life and very appreciative they are so thoughtful. Thank you both so much for doing this for me.
I know my grandmother and my mother would both be excited that I ended up with it since it was supposed to be mine one day.
It needs to be refinished but it made it through Hurricane Harvey and survived but has some damage on the legs. I guess it’s my responsibility to take care of it so I can pass it down to Jeanelle one day and she can pass it down to her girls and keep the family tradition going.
Gifts from the heart are the best kind of gifts.
Cricket turned 9 months on November 2 she has finally started jumping and lets just say I feel her power when the ground shakes beneath me.
Our daughter Jeanelle thinks she is about 135#s I am thinking 120#s. Either way this is one big girl. Hopefully this week we can get a weight on her.
She had a training session at the park with people playing basketball, kids playing soccer, Tennis lessons going on and lots of people walking and running and nothing seemed to bother her. That was a lot of distractions and the trainer and I were both surprised she did so well.
Hopefully I can get some new pics this week.
Our wedding anniversary is today and its been 42 years. We have lived in the same house for almost 42 years its crazy when I think about it.
This week we got to put a new upstairs unit in for our central ac and heat that was $4500.00. I am very grateful we had the cash to pay for this. We did not have to replace the outside unit thank goodness that would have been another $5000.00.
I guess this was our anniversary present to each other.
There is 24 acres behind us and the far 12 acres is for sale and is pending sale for $660,000.00.
A cousins house down the road is for sale for $465,000.00 it is on 4.65 acres.
This area is very hot in the real estate market right now which is a good thing if we decide to sell.
Life is GOOD we are very blessed and thankful.
The okra in our garden is producing about 4 x of what we expected them to do.
We have given away about 4 bushels.
We have been giving okra away to people we know and having give aways for people we do not know and we still have okra coming out our ears.
We have one lady that has gotten about 12 gallons of okra from us.
With COVID19 still going on it only seems right to do this we did the same thing with our cucumbers.
If you have a kind heart give something back to your community.
Doing the right thing at the right time could give people some HOPE and put a smile on someones face.
I will be off the blog for a few days but will be back later in the week.
I grew up with family drama all around as the years went on it seem to get worse.
On my mom’s side of the family, she had two brothers but she was the oldest. They all quit talking to each other many years ago after my grandparents had died.
My mom even held up the sale of my grandparent’s house to irritate one of them knowing they just wanted the money to gamble with. She talked to me about this several times. My parents spent years and years working and saving money so money was not an issue for them and neither one would have gambled away large sums of money.
The last time the 3 siblings saw each other in person before my mom’s death was 20 years before at my great aunt’s funeral. This was only because they all had to be there at the same time. My mom told me the tension was pretty bad at the time and things would never be the same again this was in 1999.
They all 3 lived 300 miles apart close enough they should have visited each other at least a few times a year. The 3 of them never even really knew each other as middle-aged adults much less during retirement.
Our children have not seen either great uncle in 26 years. They do not know me or my family and therefore have no say so in anything that happens.
They never talked on the phone or kept in touch until my dad was diagnosed with cancer in August 2014 then she and Brother B spoke a few times a week. She never spoke to the youngest Brother D until my dad passed away and they were never as close as she was with brother B.
Neither of my moms brothers (my uncles) came to either one of my parents funerals now that says A LOT! This is called FAMILY Love.
Most of the time family issues boil down to two words JEALOUSY or GREED and sometimes both.
Sometimes people get so jealous of the relationships of others they have to try and destroy those relationships.
Every family has its issues and I honestly thought my mom’s and her brother’s drama was bad enough but that was until my mom died.
My parents only had two children my sister and myself.
I can tell you this much this drama was neither one of us because we would have never done such a thing.
I have family members involved in this greed.
My dad warned my mom about this he said: ” Watch Your Back”.
I knew who he meant and those I am closest to know who would take advantage of my mom.
I am ashamed of some members of my own family and I have to wonder how you can justify your actions.
How do you sleep at night knowing what you have done?
The others involved with you are just as guilty as you are as of right now I know of 4 of you.
Bribery is a whole different issue but bribing with money that is not yours REALLY!
Accepting a bribe is another issue for my other family member that is involved in this greed.
I hope you get the feeling you are being watched by big brother because you are.
Your time will come and all your lies will not help you this time.
Has anyone been through the nightmare of having to find insurance on your own and you are not eligible for medicare yet?
My husband is retiring in 7 weeks and I have to find my insurance. His will be easy enough but I am younger than he is.
The first time I checked on this early last year I made the MISTAKE of giving the online form my phone number. I kid you not by the time I pushed enter my phone started ringing and I was getting 40 – 50 calls a day.
Now all those calls are blocked one by one I got rid of them.
I have a friend who suggested Humana insurance. Does anyone else have any suggestions?
What I would like is low monthly payments low deductable and prescription care coverage.
Please no Salespeople!